My Birthing time
I wanted to share this story as I believe it has a lesson that may help others.
I choose to use Hynobabies to assist me to have a positive and painless birthing experience. I did the five week Hypnobabies home study course. I was dutiful when completing the hypnosis sessions and the positive pregnancy affirmations. I did not practice the finger drop technique enough, probably only a few times a week.
My guess date had come and gone and my little one wasn’t ready to arrive. My obstetrician was happy to wait two weeks after my guess date before strongly encouraging an induction. On 41 weeks and 1 day I was at a café enjoying breaky with my family when my membranes ruptured.
I called the hospital and my obstetrician and midwives were happy for me to stay at home where I was comfortable but I would need to go into the hospital for monitoring two or three times a day. Each monitoring session was perfect and I was permitted to return home and relax in comfort. I had some birthing time projects planed to take my mind off things, one of which included baking banana cupcakes for the midwifes.
My obstetrician allowed me to wait 48 hours in hopes my birthing waves would begin naturally. I felt lucky as most obstetricians only allow 6 hours before induction. The 48 hours came and went. I had very mild birthing waves, enough to get my hopes up that I would not need to be induced. On Friday morning I was informed that I would need to be induced. I was upset and teary for a while as I came to terms with induction. I had a fear that an induction would lead to further intervention.
I pulled myself together and calmed considerably. I settled into the recliner and dimmed the light, played some calming music and started listening to my hypnobabies birthing time CDs. My induction started at around 9am, birthing waves steadily increased as they increased the drug used in induction. I had a lot of monitoring and cords, a drip for the induction, a heart rate monitor, a contractions monitor, and my little ones heart rate monitor.
The midwives did everything they could to stick to my birthing plan. They allowed me to move around the room, and I was permitted to use the shower which is unusual for an induction. The shower was blissful.
After around 2pm I was starting to find the birthing waves pretty challenging, although I appeared relaxed externally. I asked my husband to reassure me and again became emotional and teary.
At around 4pm the midwives checked my cervix to see how dilated I was. The midwife forgot that I did not want to know my dilation, which was 3cm. She accidentally told me and an awkward conversation followed. At this point I made a mistake, the only thing I would change if I could go back. I stupidly asked how long she thought I had left? Her answer was at “at least 6 hours’. I rationally knew everyone progresses at different speeds but I did a mental back flip regardless.
I lost focus. I turned off the hypnobabies CD’s and lost control of my calm breathing. I unhelpfully focused on ‘I cant make 6 hours’. My husband was amazing, and the cue word we practiced was the only thing that could calm me down. The widwife convinced me to try gas, which she put on the lowest setting as she knew my aversion to drugs. I found the gas device more frustrating that anything. I started to focus on keeping my jaw loose, with the intention of keeping my cervix loose. I did this my making humming type sounds with my mouth open and loose.
It was very intense. I had done a complete mental backflip. ‘6 hours’ kept going around and around in my head. I felt that I needed a rest and asked the midwife to turn the induction drug off. The rests immediately became longer and I found this time blissful. Every time our midwife suggested started the drug again, I asked for just a little longer.
At this point we had a serious conversation. The midwife suggested Piticon but I did not want to make an uninformed decision so I asked my husband to look in the books we bought along, I stalled making a decision until I had more information. She then started telling me that if I didn’t start the induction drug, I wouldn’t progress and may end up with a cearian. This was a scary time for me as I really wanted a natural birth.
Our midwife turned the induction drug up to half of what it was prior. The waves returned quickly. The ‘6 hour’ comment was still doing laps in my mind. I was thinking things like ‘6 hours of this, If this isn’t transition, what’s transition going to feel like’. If I wasn’t so distracted my the comment and listened to my body, I would of realised that I was in transition. I started getting really agitated, thinking about pulling out all of the cords and monitors. I suddenly decided that I needed to move to the ball, I moved very fast a caught everyone by surprise.
I immediately started to feel pushy, but since I wasn’t listening to by body. I was thinking unhelpful thoughts ‘I can’t be pushy, I still have six hours to go, I must be making it up’. As a result I was trying not to push and remained silent.
Fluid kept gushing with each push I was trying to hold back. I stood up as I thought I made a mess and to everyone’s surprise I had a bloody show. This meant it was go time. The next few minutes was a rush, one midwife called my obstriction as the other, with my husband helped me move to the bed. She confirmed that our little one was ready to come out. I decided to kneel on the ground.
Our midwife used hot towels to help and told me to push if I wanted too. I pushed and I felt every beautiful sensation (this was one of my favourite parts). In only two or three quick pushes, our beautiful little daughter arrived. She came out so fast.
They passed her between my legs through to the front, placed a pillow on the floor and allowed me to lie down. I held her close as my husband helped dry her. I placenta immediately detached, I didn’t even feel it come out. Once the cord stopped pulsating, my husband cut the cord.
Our beautiful little Alice was crying and it was the most beautiful noise I’ve ever heard. I felt such immense relief in knowing that she was healthy and that I made it though such an amazing and natural experience.
My husband held her as I moved to the bed, we stayed there for an hour and a half to bond as a family. It was such a special time.
My obstriction didn’t make it to my birthing time as it happened so fast. From when they checked my dilation (3cm), Alice arrived around as hour later. She has been a perfect little newborn, breastfeeding happened quickly and she is often calm and alert.
I wanted to share this story as I believe it has a lesson that may help others. A lesson about how every woman progresses at different speeds, no-one can predict the length of your birthing time.
I absolutely loved my birthing time but if I could change one small detail, It would be to not ask how long anyone thought I had left and to be adamant about not knowing my dilation. I truly believe that if I didn’t ask such a silly question, I wouldn’t have focused on such an unhelpful answer. I would have been able to stay more focused, I would have listened to my body more and reduced the feelings of panic and fear that occurred when I lost my focus.
My midwife was really impressed with Hypnobabies, and spoke about our birthing time with her peers. Staff members would ask me questions, some interested in using Hypnobabies themselves. My obstriction told me that she was proud of my efforts and impressed that I stuck to my birthing plan as much as was possible.